Friday, May 21, 2010

Feminine Makeovers Start With Realistic Self-Appraisal

Feminine makeovers are more popular with each passing year. From wardrobe planning to hair and makeup impression management, to extreme plastic surgery, the rush is on for the complete transformation makeover.

Some people assume that magical changes in every aspect of their lives will result from a makeover or cosmetic surgery.

Maxwell Maltz, a cosmetic surgeon, was the first to notice that the best plastic surgery was not enough to change the self-concept and low self-esteem of some patients. Maltz's Psycho-Cybernetics, his system for developing positive thoughts about oneself, is a classic in the self-help canon.

The first step in planning your feminine makeover is to carefully consider what you want to achieve. You may find that some magical thinking is involved: If only I improve the shape of my nose, the smoothness of my complexion, or the width of my thighs, all kinds of wonderful changes will magically follow.

You are not alone if you have not given a lot of thought to how a simple Botox treatment will improve your career, love life, finances, and happiness. People have tried to achieve magical powers through alchemical processes since humankind's tribal beginnings.

The surgeon's scalpel has no more magical power than a sorcerer's wand.

In fact, our yen for animal print fashion is a modern example of the simplest form of sympathetic magic: the belief that the traits of the animal will be transferred to the wearer - courage, stealth, sensuality, freedom, and beauty.

The mythic quest of alchemy is to transform ordinary materials into gold. The ultimate alchemical transformation was always spiritual - the ascension of our human clay to spiritual grace and freedom.

The popularity of feminine makeovers is the latest manifestation of our yearning for magical transmutation.

As in the all things, the key is balance.

Feminine makeovers can make us feel good. A new hairstyle, a new outfit, even a flattering new shade of lipstick can make us smile.

If you have realistic expectations for cosmetic surgery, a Botox treatment, a new haircut or wardrobe, you are less likely to be disappointed.

No amount of exterior change can cure inner discontent. This was the great discovery of Maxwell Maltz. Feminine makeovers are ultimately an inside job.

How do you express your creativity and joy? Have you found your passion? These answers may be as important in finding the right haircut.

Feminine makeovers, a cultural craze, are only the latest manifestation of humankind's search for alchemical transmutation at the deepest, spiritual and creative levels of our being.

If you want more flattering clothing, find an image consultant. If your hair is a mess, invest in a good hairstylist. If you are sure that all you want of cosmetic surgery is to look more youthful or change a physical feature, it's time to make an appointment with a surgeon.

On the other hand, if you are fantasizing about how this will lead to a promotion at work, a new social life, fortune, or marriage, it is time for a reality check.

A feminine makeover may have very positive results. Just don't expect a complete alchemical transmutation of all the circumstances of your life.

By : Enid_Sefcovic,_Ph.D.

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